remember, when ever any attacks your personality or character they think of what will hurt you which, in reality, is what hurts them
if they are not being constructive in their criticism if they are not offering solutions if they suggest no positive practicality
if they are intent on completely negating you and they don’t truly have your best interest in mind
if they are not coming from a place of love but of pure hurtful destructive hate only
every thing they say will be insight into their own fears about who they know themselves to be in their core at their worst
If someone attacks you with their sharpest weapons its is only because they know it can slice their own skin so unless they also teach you how to defend yourself from the blade
they have left themselves open.