people say “don’t act as if you like someone too much
or he or she won’t be interested”
and they are correct
if you want someone who has no self-esteem
and I guarantee
this person you have conned
with your manipulative vacillating interest and neglect
will be equally unhappy when you are together
as before you met
just the blame will shift
from not having someone
to having you
find someone you can be good to
so you can be your best true self